Today’s topic come from 30 Days of D/s sent to us from Kayla Lords & John Brownstone.
“Today’s question is about submission and what that means to you.
Does a submissive have certain behaviors? Do submissives do specific tasks? When you think of a submissive and submission, what thoughts come to mind?”
From This submissives viewpoint:
What does submission mean to me? It means being able to “flip a switch” in my head when I interact with Pappa. To be honest, I am struggling with this lately. I first noticed it when He would come to my school to mentor some of my students. He would talk to me in “that voice”, and I would get on edge. You see, I already felt like I didn’t have the respect of view or authority with my students before He ever came in. If they heard him talk to me in ” that voice” how was I ever going to gain their respect? For the past month, I have noticed that my switch doesn’t flip the moment I get home from work. After making decisions all day long, being a teacher, and responsible for so many kids, I haven’t been able to train myself to turn the alpha side of me off and submissive side on. I’m thinking that this is where a ritual needs to come into play to help me.
Once that switch flips, what does it look like? The unspoken things that I do, fix Him a drink, fix His plate for dinner, kiss him before I leave for work in the morning, sleep either naked or at least bottomless, let Him sit with his back to no one when we are in public, be available to him sexually whenever and however he wants, and always let Him walk on the outside.
Being His submissive, I had to really observe the things he did or didn’t do, say or didn’t say. Why? So I will best know what to do in order to take care of him & make sure he is content. I’m not a mind reader and there are lots of times when I tell him I just need to know what is in his head because I am stuck.
Being His submissive, I need to listen to the things he is trying to teach me. Despite the fact that I lived 41 years of my life without Him, I do have a lot still left to learn and he is a great teacher.
Our D/s dynamic is unique in that we live it 24/7/365. We are in a very loving, committed relationship, raising a family, working, & learning how to be the best us individually, so we can be the best us together!
Remember the saying, “Never say never!”? Yeah…never in a million years did I ever think I would be a submissive to a man. I was raised to never depend on a man for anything. I have learned that I am not depending on him, WE are learning from each other. We compliment each other and make life better.
My goal at the end of the day, is to crawl into bed, have Pappa spoon up to me, smack my ass, and say ” good night my good girl.” That is how I know if I did my job that day.
From this Dominants point of view:
What submission means to me.
It means I have been deemed worthy of the gift. Submission is the highest manner in which to be honored. The bearer of this “gift” should be cherished and protected.
And as a Dom is not just my job. But my duty to guide love and protect the bearer of this gift. Who chooses to give me such a precious gift.
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